It's definitely a thing (I actually wrote about this too recently after winter break). It took me months to process the first college drop off (or maybe it's a delayed reaction?) and I'm realizing that there are many different phases to letting go of your children.
Right there with you. Except she's on semester eight and the train is going to take her farther away. After so many years of holding it in, I really love that you're letting your vulnerability show!
My oldest will be going off to college this fall, and I am dreading it. I've loved seeing glimpses of how you manage Laurel being away and I really appreciate you sharing all your feelings. Makes me hopeful that I will make it through my daughter's first year ok.
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I’m just shy of 72. My children are obviously well into adulthood, but I fall apart stoically and sometimes not so stoically every time there is a leaving, especially for the one who is further away and not present as much. College drop off both times was volumes of tears after I got in the car. I truly think it’s cathartic in some way. I also cry for the whole world at times and even something silly that triggers my empathic nature. Not a lot. Just a little emotion. Might not even be noticeable. And for what it’s worth, I cried again, tears just welling up but staying put, just reading your post.
It's definitely a thing (I actually wrote about this too recently after winter break). It took me months to process the first college drop off (or maybe it's a delayed reaction?) and I'm realizing that there are many different phases to letting go of your children.
Indeed, thanks so much for reading, and I hope all is going well with the ever evolving "transition"!
Right there with you. Except she's on semester eight and the train is going to take her farther away. After so many years of holding it in, I really love that you're letting your vulnerability show!
WOOF. OK, well there's the confirmation that this feelings ride shall continue! Thanks for reading, Julie!
Now I’m crying…so relatable.
HUGS.
My oldest will be going off to college this fall, and I am dreading it. I've loved seeing glimpses of how you manage Laurel being away and I really appreciate you sharing all your feelings. Makes me hopeful that I will make it through my daughter's first year ok.
Thank you so much for sharing with me, Marjorie. I am going to be holding so much good juju for you and your daughter in the coming year.
I’m just shy of 72. My children are obviously well into adulthood, but I fall apart stoically and sometimes not so stoically every time there is a leaving, especially for the one who is further away and not present as much. College drop off both times was volumes of tears after I got in the car. I truly think it’s cathartic in some way. I also cry for the whole world at times and even something silly that triggers my empathic nature. Not a lot. Just a little emotion. Might not even be noticeable. And for what it’s worth, I cried again, tears just welling up but staying put, just reading your post.
Becky, thank you for sharing your experience so generously with me. Here's to feeling all the feelings.
Oh this post. I loved every minute of it. I'm so proud of Laurel (I know we don't actually know each other), and I'm here for all your feels!
Thank you so much; I appreciate your support!